Conversation Starters 2
Conversation Starters 2: For Adults & Young People.
Have you met someone for the first time and the conversation flowed so well it was as if you had known each other for years? They made you feel comfortable right away and you found yourself revealing things you haven't even told your other friends. This person was probably a natural conversationalist -- their expertise put you at ease.
You can learn the art of being a conversationalist with great conversation starters! This can serve you well in your career, and in developing deep relationships with family and friends.
When I met my sister-in-law for the first time, she made me feel so comfortable because she showed a genuine interest in me, and was at the ready with questions. On other occasions I would observe her, and discovered her formula for making friends and starting conversations, which was not rocket science!
Conversation starter genius made simple:
Show a genuine interest in people, be ready with questions and show good manners.
Make an effort when talking with people -- this is an easy practice and common courtesy.
As well, look at them when you talk and listen when they speak -- a fairly obvious common courtesy, but missing often in conversation.
Doing these few simple gestures will make you stand out!
Conversation starter #2: When meeting new people or getting to know people deeper, ask yourself:
"What do I already know about this person(s) and what do I want to know?"
"How can I clarify or better understand what I already know?"
Inquire about their interests with direct questions,
"What do you do in your spare time?"
"Do you enjoy sports?" "Work-out?"
"Do you like movies?"
"Do you sew?"
Brainstorm ahead and have some general questions ready for anyone you may meet.
To go deeper, ask specific questions vs. general questions.
CONVERSATION STARTERS FOR ADULTS: The questions!
1. Do you have kids? Ages?
2. Are you married? How long have you been married?
3. How did you meet your spouse?
4. Do you have children? Ages?
5. If single, do you have a boyfriend/girlfriend?
6. Where do you work?
7. What kind of work do you do?
8. Do you like your work? Likes? Dislikes?
9. If you could do any job, what would it be?
10. What do you like to do with your free time? As a family?
11. Have you traveled much? To where? What was your favorite place and why? Least favorite place and why?
12. If you haven't traveled much; where would you like to visit?
13. What's your favorite season?
14. What are your favorite foods?
15. Favorite restaurants?
16. Favorite TV shows? Movies? Books? Characters?
17. Where did you go to school?
18. Do you have siblings? Family in the area?
19. Other hobbies/interests?
This should be ample questions to get the flow going, and the recipient will most likely respond in kind, and you will have a great conversation :)
Now if your recipient is a stump, and doesn't respond; well, you've done your part and move on.
CONVERSATIONS STARTERS FOR YOUNG PEOPLE:
1. What grade are you in or year in school?
2. What school do you attend?
3. What are you studying?
4. What are your favorite classes?
5. Do you play sports? What sports?
6. Extracurricular activities?
7. What's your favorite thing to do?
8. Do you have good friends at school? In your neighborhood?
9. Do you have a favorite teacher? Coach?
10. What do you like about him or her (the teacher)?
11. If they have recently moved, ask how their adjustment is going?
12. What is the hardest part about your move or adjustment?
13. Do you have a part time job?
14. What kind of work do you hope to do when older?
15. What do you like to do in your spare time?
16. Do you have siblings? Are you the oldest? Youngest? Etc.
17. Do you have extended family in the area? Do you see them often?
18. Favorite food(s)?
19. Favorite TV show(s)?
20. Favorite movie(s)? What do you like about the TV show or movie? Favorite character(s)? Favorite line(s)?
Some of the questions overlap with the adult questions, and some can be used in both situations. Either way, this should get you talking and the conversation rolling! :)
The guiding principle for conversation starters: Take a genuine interest in others and ask questions. Be polite.
Here's the caution on talking with younger kids if you are an adult: I would assume you are getting to know these kids for a reason i.e. they are guests in your home; the children of a friend; a new babysitter or your kid's friends.
Essentially, you have some reason to be talking with these kids. I would not recommend talking to kids you have no reason to talk to -- you wouldn't want this to be construed as stalking or harassing a child.
I hope these conversation starters will give you the courage to step out of your comfort zone and enjoy great conversation and new friendships.
To the journey,
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